B. Describe actions that are specific, avo /C. Be certain about destination, time, color, texture, position and exactly how often.

B. Describe actions that are specific, avo /C. Be certain about destination, time, color, texture, position and exactly how often.

D. Describe in place of diagnose. Avo /E. Avo For example: “once I saw the big coffee stain in the rug…” now is easier to know and realize than “once you ruined my day, as constantly, along with your slimy, stinking, completely disgusting, bad antics…”

Message Two:
ideas for expressing more obviously:
just exactly What feelings will you be feeling? A. Make use of specific emotion describers such as “I feel…”: happy, annoyed, pleased, unfortunate, afra /B. Prevent feeling words that imply the action of some other person: “I feel. Ignored, manipulated, mistreated, ignored, refused, dominated, abandoned, used, cheated (etc. )”Notice just how these terms indirectly blame the listener for the speaker’s feelings. So that you can assist your listener determine what you’re feeling, convert these “implied blame” words into an explicitly called feeling (see Suggestion A, above) as well as an interpretation or unmet intend (Message 3). For example: “I am feeling completely ignored by you” probably means “I have always been experiencing actually unfortunate (or annoyed) because i really want you to pay for more focus on me personally, (save money time beside me, etc. )…”
Message Three:
recommendations for expressing more demonstrably:
What interpretations, wants, needs, memories or anticipations of yours help those emotions? A. Express the interpretations, desires, hopes, understandings and associations that support your emotions:

… because we see that as… because I imagine that… …

… because we take that to mean because I remember how …

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